Adoption thoughts

Adoption is a wonderful thing.

Adoption creates families, and can unite existing ones.

Adoption fills the need to parent.

Adoption allows for expanded thought on 'nature vs. nurture' questions.

Adoption does not deal with the issues of femininity or masculinity that infertility brings up.

Adoption does not answer the 'why' questions.

Adoption changes your priorities just like any other way of becoming a parent, but it cannot solve all the issues of infertility.

We are SO blessed to have been allowed to adopt our children. They give us the opportunity to experience parts of life we could never have known on our own or with bio kids. Still, we grieve for our fertility, that which seems our birthright. We have no answer to the 'whys'. We must simply allow that grief to be a part of our lives; it affects us, but must not be the dominating force in our lives.

I think God must identify with adoptive families. There is choice involved, and I personally don't believe it's all His. Some of us will not choose Him. I am reminded of a line from a Hymn , the title of which I cannot recall. "...sorrow and love flow, mingled down. Did e'er such love and sorrow meet? Or thorns compose so rich a crown?"

Sorrow and love. Yes, they can dwell together. They do. I wonder if that will ever change. I mean, when we are in Heaven and totally enraptured with the presence of God, will we still have a place of sorrow for those who chose not to be there? Does God carry that with Him for eternity?

Adoption is wonderful. It just isn't everything.